Sunday, February 14, 2010

Relationships are tough

Relationships are tough with Cushing's, as with many diseases. Sometimes they are tough for the caregivers, spouses, boy/girlfriends, or significant others due to hormonal issues, loss of libido, and cortisol "rages". Other times they are tough for the ill person because the aforementioned can't or won't give the needed support and involvement. Some marriages don't last. A version of the "I didn't sign up for this" phrase is heard often, ignoring the "in sickness and in health" part of the marriage vows.

Relationships are also tough to develop after the illness due to the emotional, mental, and physical changes in the body. Self-esteem plummets as well.

But some relationships grow stronger. And not only those between two lovers, but those between other family members, too. My two daughters, both of whom I am so very proud, are grown and on their own. But they have stood with me, by me, and supported me all through this illness and in life in general. They gave me this ring a few years ago as a symbol of our love. It has our birthstones, mine in the middle with theirs hugging mine. It is the only ring I wear. I love you, my daughters, and thank you for being there for me.

Happy Valentines Day.


3 comments:

  1. Great ring. Your daughters sound very sweet.
    I've been thinking of this very subject lately. I would never leave.

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  2. Ah, the ring... It is the last thing you have. They take away the clothes and put you in a hospital gown. The wallet is gone; the only ID that is needed is strapped around your wrist. Every visual reminder of your personal choices is removed, except the ring. It is the reminder of love and of a promise. I will never leave you, I will always love you.... through sickness and unto death.

    Thank God for the ring.

    -Regina

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  3. What a wonderful gift to have coming from such a lovely daughters.

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